It’s so hard to take time to do the things that matter most. . . . but the little things that matter most make the biggest difference.
For those who don’t know, I’m currently going to college while raising three small children. It’s often hard to balance the busy life of the kids’ school functions, homework, church, sports,while helping my husband with his business (every now and then), keeping up with my schooling and homework and so forth. I know you all understand this because you have super busy lives too. I try to do my stuff on my own time (homework, house chores, etc) but it’s often the case that I fall short of that and neglect the kids to do the other. On such occasions I quickly notice that arguing, crying, and sad children seem to live in my house. I’ve found that if I just take a little time from what I’m doing to do the things that matter most – play and laugh with them – that things quickly turn around.
I’ve never regretted putting my stuff aside to be with them. Doing so not only makes them happy, but me as well. Taking the time to love them is a lot more effective than getting mad at them for interrupting me or being loud. If I just play with them for a moment, their spirits brighten and they can go on happily for quite awhile. They just need to know that they’re important to me . . . and that I’d put anything aside to be with them. My children are the moments that matter most.
What are the moments that matter most to you?
Enjoy this touching video from “Mormon Messages” – the LDS Youtube Channel. You’ll find a link to more videos like it in the sidebar. My favorite part of the video starts at 2:43, but you have to see the beginning to understand why it’s so special.
-Marzee, your atmchick
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My Mormon Life
I do laundry. This way my kids don’t smell like “The Bog of Eternal Stench.”
I’ve had one of those “high efficiency” washer and dryers for a couple of years now and have only just bought the proper detergent for it. Could we spring for the nice stuff? Sure . . . . but really, is my washer really “too good” for the generic suds? Apparently it is – as the maintenance man has told me. . . twice. But really – if it’s so “superior,” shouldn’t it be able to suck it up and blow bubbles with the old stuff?
Mormon Moment –
When taking some clothes upstairs I pause in the hallway and get down on my knees to pray.
Q: Why pray in the hallway?
Why not? You can do it here or there, you can do it anywhere! It doesn’t really matter where you do it, just so long as you’re praying. A hallway is just as good as a closet:
6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy acloset, and when thou hast bshut thy door, cpray to thy Father which is in dsecret; and thy Father which eseeth in secret shall freward thee openly. ~Matt. 6: 6 (New Testament)
Q: Why the sudden urge to stop in the middle of putting away laundry to pray?
It’s Spring Break and I’m with my kids 24/7. This is a bit of culture shock for me. I want them to remember this time as special with a really cool fun mom, rather than a crabby mean mom who freaked with the running, yelling, tattling, brown sugar all over the floor and such.
I’ve learned that if I get good thoughts or impressions, it’s best to take immediate action as they’re probably more important than I realize. If I don’t do it right away, I’ll forget – and regret.
So I paused to get down on my knees and asked Heavenly Father for a little help to be the mom that they need, that He wants me to be, and that I hope to be.
‘Children are to be born into a family where the parents hold the needs of children equal to their own in importance. Hope on, trust on, till you see the salvation of God.’4 You can pray for your children, love them, and reach out to them with confidence that Jesus reaches for them with you.
– Elder Henry B. Eyring, Apostle (“Our Perfect Example” Ensign. Nov. 2009)
I know taking a moment for prayer makes a huge difference in how I feel, think, act . . . and in return how my kids do similarly. They’re worth it and so am I.
Does this ever help you?